We sat down with Deon, Dr. Love and founder of Love Express, Divine Connect and I-MeetYou.com and Cindy, chief dating coach of Divine Connect, for our first episode of ask Dr. Love!
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The #AskDrLove Show Ep.1 (Am I Dating A Materialistic Girl?)
Here are some of the user-submitted questions that they answered.
I always find myself going after the popular girl who has many suitors. How do I make myself a worthy candidate of her?
Of course it’ll be a difficult conquest as a popular girl with many suitors will mean that you have a lot of competitors, but it isn’t necessarily impossible to win her heart! However, you need to ensure that you like her for who she is and not see her as merely a prize to be won. Show her that you understands what she needs and show her your caring side to get that fighting chance. But don’t just be a Mr. Nice Guy, as she probably already has too many of them surrounding her. Take online guides with a pinch of salt, as many of these are cookie cutter solutions that do not account for your personality and character. One way to stand out from your competitors is to undergo coaching. Personal development is the key to helping you explore your strengths and be a better and more authentic you!
How do I find out if the girl I am dating Is materialistic? What are some simple ways that can help me discover if the girl likes me or my wealth?
For starters, don’t flaunt your wealth from the start! Although you might feel inclined to lavish her, hold off that thought until you are sure she likes you for who you are rather than what you can offer her. One way to do so is to alternate between restaurants and cheaper options, like foodcourts. If the lady shows great distaste at eating at some place other than restaurants, that will be a hint towards her attitude towards wealth. We also have one trick for you: ‘forget’ to bring your wallet for one date and see whether she pays!
I am on a tight budget and do not have the capacity to spend a lot when I am out. What can I do if I still want to bring her out on a date?
You can search avenues like social media as well as newspapers for new happenings and events around Singapore. Art exhibitions, libraries, outdoor spaces are typically free as well. Recall when you were young? The only way to a girl’s heart was through conversation. Chatting over meals, chatting while studying, chatting through the night. Remember that in dating, it is the connection that matters at the end of the day. Connect spiritually and emotionally through intimate conversations.
“Make up can make an ugly girl look beautiful but only money can make an ugly guy look handsome.” What are your thoughts on this quote?
You might be surprised; sometimes taking off the make up can make the girl look prettier. And sometimes, money will make the guy look even uglier. It is not what you have, but rather what you choose to do with what you have! If you like to use money to impress people, you need to ensure sustainability in that approach as once you reduce your spending the girl might take it that you are less interested in her. A more viable approach would be to impress with the right habits, traits and values.